Ten years later, have you grown or simply changed?

August 15, 2020 3 min read

STOP… Collaborate and listen. (I know you were thinking it.) So back to the post… Have you stopped to take stock of where you are in your life today? At some last year, everybody was doing the side by side comparison pictures of themselves over ten years; specifically 2009 compared to 2019. Physical appearance aside, how have you changed in 10 years? If you were to ask your loved ones who have known you over the past ten years, how would they say you have changed? Notice I did not say how you have grown, but rather how you have changed.

 

“All change is not growth, just as all movement is not forward.”  - Ellen Glasgow

 

I acknowledge that you have changed in 10 years, even if it was in minor ways or just physically. What I think is a harder absolute statement to make, is that you have grown in that same timeframe. What if you asked your family and friends to share ways they believe you have grown in this timeframe? What do you think they would say? Is there really a difference between change and growth? Arguably yes,

 

The Oxford Dictionary defines change as “to make or become different.” Whereas, Oxford defines growth as “the process of developing or maturing physically, mentally, or spiritually; the process of increasing amount, value, or activity. Can you see the difference? Change is neutral, but growth shows positive momentum; dare I say positive change.

 

Now that you know the difference, look back at your reflection about the last 10 years and begin a true assessment of whether you simply changed or you grew. Here is a table to help you distinguish between change and growth as you begin to assess the past 10 years.

 

Change

Growth

Is usually temporary

Is long-term

Happens suddenly

Takes time

Typically caused by external factors

Always based on an internal factor

Change can cause growth

Growth is often the result of change

Change can be negative or positive

Growth is always positive

 

You now know my favorite areas for self-assessment and of my love of a chart or list. So here is a chart you can use to help you identify your change and growth over the last 10 years.

 

Self-assessment: Change/Growth Last 10 years

Category

Change

Growth

Notes for improvement

Professionally

 

 

 

Personally

 

 

 

Spiritually

 

 

 

Financially

 

 

 

Emotionally

 

 

 

Physically

 

 

 

 

“One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again.” -   Abraham Maslow

 

Looking forward to the next 10 years, how can you be more intentional on your journey? I challenge you to look at the same areas from the chart above and fill out the underlying chart. The purpose of the underlying chart is to help you set a goal for how you would like to grow over the next ten years. Spend time getting a clear vision of how you want your future self to be. Use the chart to map out a plan to the new and improved future you.

 

Plan for growth: Next 10 years

Category

Growth

Possible Obstacles

Plan to overcome Obstacles

Professionally

 

 

 

Personally

 

 

 

Spiritually

 

 

 

Financially

 

 

 

Emotionally

 

 

 

Physically

 

 

 

 

“Be not afraid of growing slowly; be afraid only standing still.”  - Chinese Proverb

 


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