Self-awareness: Red flag or deal breaker. Lear steps you can take to become more self-aware.

June 21, 2020 4 min read

“ Self-awareness is taking an honest look at your life without any attachment to it being right or wrong, good or bad.”

- Debbie Ford

Self-awareness is defined as the conscious knowledge of one’s own character, feelings, motives, and desires. I think of it as “know thyself”. This seems like such an easy concept, right? WRONG! Of course, you spend the most time with yourself so you should be an expert on you. Arguably, you aren’t an expert on you, and may never be. It is human nature to shield ourselves from unpleasant things; which include unpleasant things about ourselves. How many people want to be aware of their patent unpleasantness or their meanness and/or terrible attitude? Often we look outside of ourselves to explain why people seem to avoid us or even ostracize us. That’s because it is easier to blame everyone else than to take a hard look at ourselves and do the work required to make the necessary changes to become the best version of yourself.

My mother always said if one person had a problem with you, they may have caught you on a bad day or they may even be the problem. Two people, same thing. However, if everyone or the vast majority of people you come in contact with say the same thing or treat you the same way, you are likely the problem. I have taken this lesson to heart. Being transparent, I was often called abrasive and mean. My response to that feedback was to go on the defensive. I would argue that I was not abrasive or mean, rather I was just direct. After hearing the descriptors used one too many times, I began to take an inventory of who I was and how I came across. Essentially, I was becoming self-aware.

Because at the time I didn’t know about the concept of self-awareness, I resorted to my typical way of solving problems, reflection and identifying action steps. Without guidance or direction, I began to ask questions. My investigation into self, included asking questions of everyone to include those who called me abrasive and mean. I made a point to ask family and friends, because arguably their feedback should be easier to take, as theoretically it would be coming from a positive place. Conversely, I spoke with others who I knew did not necessarily have my best interests at heart. I even asked those people who flat out did not like me. By being intentional and asking those distinct groups, I knew that I would get a well-rounded view, which would ultimately provide the information I needed to be aware of my behavior and traits and how I was perceived by others and make meaningful changes.

So what did I ultimately learn? I learned that it wasn’t what I said, it was how I said it. Some of the issues were with the timing of my delivery, my tone of voice, and my inability/refusal to read the room. The first two I could address rather quickly, the third would take more work. I will likely do an entire post on reading the room, but for this post, make sure you take your audience into consideration. In relation to that example I gave, knowing my audience was important because I live in the South, where Southerners tend to “bless your heart” prior to delivering harsh truths. I had to adapt my behavior to accommodate the cultural norms of my audience. Well, I can report that I have been told that I have gotten better and it is apparent that I am less abrasive. To be clear, I am mindful of my delivery, timing, and audience, but I still don’t bless people’s hearts.

Though I didn’t follow specific steps, I did assess my life as a whole and in its distinct parts. Some areas that I suggest you assess in your quest to be self-aware are:

Personal self
Worldview
Core values
Limitations (self-imposed or otherwise)
Personal history

“Self-awareness: The recognition of your responsibility in creating your reality.”

- Caroline Nderitu

Some things to consider during your assessment:

Be mindful.
You may need to change something to be the best version of yourself.
Change now- if this behavior/habit does not fit into the “you” that you are becoming, it must change now not later.
Replace a bad habit with a new good habit.
The most important thing I learned, is to complete an “is the juice worth the squeeze" analysis. If you determine that, the behavior/habit/trait is not good but does not affect your brand, then make a decision regarding investing the energy needed to change it.

“Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.” - Paulo Coelho

I do not believe that there is a right or wrong way to assess yourself, but I do believe it is imperative that you challenge yourself to look deep. Being self-aware isn’t easy but it is an invaluable experience. As with everything else I believe about becoming your best self, this is not a one-time assessment. You will usually know when it is time to assess yourself again. Typically the “room” will make it apparent that you have work to do. Though this is a scary or uncomfortable undertaking, it will be a major step on your road to living your BAM life.

The final word… self-awareness doesn’t stop you from making mistakes, it just provides an opportunity for you to learn from them.

1 Response

카지노사이트

February 12, 2023

https://cutt.ly/8ZI7qrb
https://casinobulk.com/
https://casinobulk.com/ 카지노사이트
https://casinobulk.com/ 바카라사이트
https://casinobulk.com/ 온라인카지노
https://casinobulk.com/ 온라인바카라
https://casinobulk.com/ 온라인슬롯사이트
https://casinobulk.com/ 카지노사이트게임
https://casinobulk.com/ 카지노사이트검증
https://casinobulk.com/ 카지노사이트추천
https://casinobulk.com/ 안전카지노사이트
https://casinobulk.com/ 안전카지노사이트도메인
https://casinobulk.com/ 안전한 카지노사이트 추천
https://casinobulk.com/ 바카라사이트게임
https://casinobulk.com/ 바카라사이트검증
https://casinobulk.com/ 바카라사이트추천
https://casinobulk.com/ 안전바카라사이트
https://casinobulk.com/ 안전바카라사이트도
https://casinobulk.com/ 안전한 바카라사이트
http://toolbarqueries.google.com.uy/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
http://toolbarqueries.google.com.tw/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
http://toolbarqueries.google.com.tr/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
http://toolbarqueries.google.com.sa/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
http://toolbarqueries.google.com.py/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
http://toolbarqueries.google.com.pr/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
http://toolbarqueries.google.com.pk/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
http://toolbarqueries.google.com.pe/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
http://toolbarqueries.google.com.my/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
http://toolbarqueries.google.com.hk/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
http://toolbarqueries.google.com.gt/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
http://toolbarqueries.google.com.gh/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://www.youtube.com/redirect?q=https://casinobulk.com/
https://www.bing.com/news/apiclick.aspx?url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://clink.nifty.com/r/search/srch_other_f0/?https://casinobulk.com/
https://community.nxp.com/external-link.jspa?url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://www.oxfordpublish.org/?URL=https://casinobulk.com/
https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/no_outbounds.php?o=https://casinobulk.com/
https://fjb.kaskus.co.id/redirect?url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://www.researchgate.net/deref/https://casinobulk.com/
https://hobby.idnes.cz/peruanske-palive-papricky-rocoto-dlz-/redir.aspx?url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://blog.ss-blog.jp/pages/mobile/step/index?u=https://casinobulk.com/
https://www.google.com/url?sa=j&url=https%3A%2F%2Fcasinobulk.com%2F&uct=1633156815&usg=vlrAfpAKVbX60FB8BqUixSs98sc.
http://sinp.msu.ru/ru/ext_link?url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://www.google.com/url?sa=j&url=https%3A%2F%2Fcasinobulk.com%2F&uct=1633156815&usg=vlrAfpAKVbX60FB8BqUixSs98sc.
https://ams.ceu.edu/optimal/optimal.php?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcasinobulk.com%2F&submit=Submit&standalone=1
https://justpaste.it/redirect/6l53a/https://casinobulk.com
https://www.spiritfanfiction.com/link?l=https://casinobulk.com/
https://plusone.google.com/url?q=https://casinobulk.com/
http://cr.naver.com/redirect-notification?u=https://casinobulk.com/
http://sinp.msu.ru/ru/extlink?url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://www.sunvalley.com/?URL=casinobulk.com/
https://clients1.google.com.ar/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://clients1.google.com.ag/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://clients1.google.co.zm/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://clients1.google.co.za/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://clients1.google.co.ve/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://clients1.google.co.uz/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://clients1.google.co.ug/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://clients1.google.co.th/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://clients1.google.co.nz/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://clients1.google.co.kr/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://clients1.google.co.ke/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://clients1.google.co.il/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://clients1.google.co.id/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://clients1.google.co.cr/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://clients1.google.co.ck/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.co.ck/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.co.bw/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.cm/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.cl/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.ci/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.ch/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.ch/url?sa=i&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.cg/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.cd/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.by/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.bs/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.bi/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.bg/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.be/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.be/url?sa=i&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.ba/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.az/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://cse.google.at/url?sa=t&url=https://casinobulk.com/
https://images.google.ca/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://images.google.by/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://images.google.bs/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://images.google.bi/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://images.google.bg/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://images.google.bf/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://images.google.be/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://images.google.ba/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://images.google.ba/url?q=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://images.google.az/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://images.google.at/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://images.google.as/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://images.google.am/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://images.google.al/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://images.google.ae/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://images.google.ae/url?q=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://images.google.ad/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://maps.google.co.ke/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://maps.google.co.jp/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://maps.google.co.in/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://maps.google.co.il/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://maps.google.co.id/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://maps.google.co.cr/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://maps.google.co.bw/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://maps.google.cm/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://maps.google.cl/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://maps.google.ci/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://maps.google.ch/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://maps.google.cd/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://maps.google.cat/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://maps.google.ca/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.co.tz/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.co.th/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.co.nz/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.co.ma/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.co.ls/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.co.kr/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.co.ke/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.co.jp/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.co.in/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.co.il/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.co.id/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.co.cr/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.co.bw/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.cm/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.cl/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.ci/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.ch/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.cd/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.cat/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html
https://www.google.ca/url?sa=t&url=https://blogskorcasino1.blogspot.com/2023/02/when-is-best-time-to-visit-casino.html

Also in This BAM Life

Are you ready to receive what you asked for?

August 15, 2020 6 min read

Let’s use money as an example. Money or specifically, more money, is something most of us dream about acquiring. How many of us have included a financial planner or wealth manager in that dream? More importantly, how many of us have looked at our finances to identify the habits you have that are detrimental to your financial goals? Have you done the deep dive into your money management habits? Not just the obvious surface spending habits, like I need to stop buying Starbucks coffee every day. I mean the real uncomfortable

Ten years later, have you grown or simply changed?

August 15, 2020 3 min read

change growth personal development

I acknowledge that you have changed in 10 years, even if it was in minor ways or just physically. What I think is a harder absolute statement to make, is that you have grown in that same timeframe. What if you asked your family and friends to share ways they believe you have grown in this timeframe? What do you think they would say? Is there really a difference between change and growth? Arguably yes,

Just show up… as you: 10 Lessons to help you own your voice, space, and truth

June 22, 2020 5 min read

Too often we try to fit into a box; fit what we think people want us to be. It is in those times that we diminish our self-worth and authenticity by being someone we are not. How many times can you identify when you didn’t weigh in because you were afraid to be seen as loud, controlling, a know-it-all, or a brown noser? How many times have you kept great ideas or solutions to yourself because you believed your role was to make someone else feel bigger?