Five years from now: ten, twenty…

June 21, 2020 2 min read

Thomas Merton: “Five years from now you should look back on your life today and think you were a heretic.” I know Thomas Merton was speaking in terms of spiritual change and progress but I think it is a great quote for helping to keep us honest on our journey to living this BAM life. When I think back to pre-30’s me, I shudder and want to deny that was me. When that happens, I remember that I was the best I knew how to be at the time. I realize that I didn’t understand the value of standing tall, looking people in the eye, and more importantly, speaking my truth. I can honestly say that after a few minutes of pushing past the feelings, not all positive, I look back and see the growth, the change, and the life experiences that have brought me where I am today.


Moving forward I have goals, plans, hopes, and dreams for the next five, ten, and twenty years. You’ve probably realized by now that I like to create a list and categorize things. So as not to disappoint, here are the areas of my life I plan to see growth in the future:








Of course, this list will contain different categories depending on the person. For me success and growth would include positive momentum in all these areas. Here is where I become vulnerable and bear my soul… or I’ll at least be a little less dramatic and share some of my goals for five years from now. In five years:


Professionally – I will be working for myself. I will have leased or purchased a building to use as the headquarters for my business empire and charitable works. Yaasss, I am speaking this into existence!


Personally – I will not longer need to introduce myself when I enter a room. No, this is not me being anti-social but it would be because I have already made a mark, so I am well-known.


Spiritually – This goal dovetails into my professional goals a bit. I will like to have the time to go to church daily to help center myself and keep myself focused.


Financially – I’ve mentioned it before but in five years I hope to have the resources to pay for my son and five nieces and nephews to attend the colleges of their choosing. I would also like to have the means to travel internationally at least twice a year with my boo.


Emotionally – I would like my partner in life to have located me and we are building the empire together. As I have stated before, please give him my contact information…



The final word… choose to live this BAM life, so when you look back in five, ten, or twenty years, you are proud of the continual growth you see and you are well on your way to creating a legacy that you are proud of.

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